The Divorce Support Groups are back!


Hello!

Enrollment for the 2025 cohort of the Purity Culture Dropout™Divorce Support Groups is finally beginning!

Last year I started to observe so many people booking sessions with me to talk about relationships, dating, and sexuality after divorce.

I already knew from creating the PCD™ Queer Support Groups that one of the most powerful ways to learn and grow is in a supportive community with others who understand your unique experience and have a lot of the same questions and concerns.

And so, the PCD™ Divorce Support Groups were born! In the Fall of 2024, we brought together groups of wonderful brave people, all on the divorce train (a few were just contemplating divorce), and honestly it was AMAZING! Let's face it, when it comes to relationship breakdown and separation, people coming from purity culture aren’t just divorced/ divorcing… they’re divorced/ divorcing after purity culture, which brings up all kinds of things that other divorced people may not necessarily relate to.

Would you like to be part of the 2025 groups? We’ll navigate identity, sexuality, dating, gender expectations, shame, pleasure, community, and so much more- all specially tailored to address the niche experience of people who are divorced after purity culture.

What do you do when purity culture promised you that following its rules would guarantee a happily- ever-after with your one true love, but it didn’t quite work out that way?

It’s no secret or surprise that when people deconstruct their faith after high control religion (including purity culture), they experience seismic changes in their lives. Sometimes, especially when people marry young, the evolution of their faith, sense of self, and sexuality becomes incompatible with their spouse’s.

And so, separation and divorce.

Some of the things people experience can include:

  • Anger at how following all the purity culture rules didn’t result in happily ever after
  • Shame for not “making it work”
  • Regrets when it comes to sexuality and relationships
  • Grief about lost youth/ not having a typical experience of dating
  • Struggling with the weight of others’ opinions on your marriage/ divorce
  • Losing faith community
  • Loss of identity as a wife or husband
  • Judgment from faith community and family about your divorce
  • Questions and worry about navigating sex and dating now
  • People in your business/ sex life now
  • Anxiety about dating/sex when you have little experience
  • Feelings of exhilaration (and also terror) about living life without the weight of traditional expectations you once adhered to
  • Having healthy romantic/ sexual relationships

The ways that a deeply religious upbringing can affect the experience of divorce (especially with regard to expectations around gender and sexuality) is very specific and can be an isolating experience.

And that's why I'm so excited about this years Purity Culture Dropout™ Divorce Support Groups.

Structure: 8 meetings total, 90 minutes each. Each week has a theme/topic and will include structured, facilitated conversation and prompts.

Groups Begin: The week of Sunday, November 2nd.

There are FOUR groups to choose from:

  • Sundays at 12pm ET
  • Tuesdays 7pm ET
  • Wednesdays at 9pm ET
  • Sundays at 7:30pm ET

A couple of notes:

This is not a religious or religion-based group. Anyone can join regardless of their current relationship to religion.

This group is open to anyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Queer folks (especially those newly discovering their queerness) are very welcome! You decide how to interpret “divorce”- whether you’re just beginning to separate, are contemplating but haven't initiated yet, or have been divorced for years, you’re welcome in this group.

Let me know if you have any questions at all, I'd love to hear from you and support you on your post-purity culture divorce path.

Erica

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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Erica Smith, Sexuality Education and Consulting

I developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. I have worked with hundreds of people to help them learn about healthy sexuality after high control religion. Subscribe if you're curious about / invested in shame free sexuality education that's specifically tailored to the needs of people coming out of high control religions and purity culture. Expect information not just about healthy sexuality and upcoming programming, but also cultural commentary on sexual politics in the US. I'm a sex educator with 25 years of experience and I'm excited to share that with you.

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